You can't judge everything assuming the child has knowledge of the intentions of the abuser online. Both are not ok, but they are not even close in terms of possible adverse effects. The difference between the two cases I mentioned is much greater than that between fentanyl and heroin. Or that they have parents who wouln't agree to them doing things that seem totally reasonable to them, and just freak out without any explanation.Ĭhildren are taught what nudity is very early. Your reply implies that the child has been taught why it's just as bad to send a picture of their feet as of their hair as of their ankle as of their entire body as of anything. It hasn't exposed them in a dangerous way, but they have been victims to an adult going online and asking children for feet pictures to satisfy themselves. It seems unlikely that your child knows about every fetish adults have, and if they happen to send pictures of their feet to someone they have not done anything bad, they have not broken any unspoken general rule, there isn't a lot saying that is a thing you shouldn't do or any obvious signs as to why it would be bad. So honestly i don't know was it good or bad, but i'm sure the time limit had a huge impact and not in a favor of my parents intentions. Probably would have eye problems by now because of a cheap crt monitor back then and would never meet lots of good friends in wow. I'm pretty sure that i would have burn out of this games addiction much faster in my childhood without the limitation and probably could start coding earlier. Yeah i play from time to time, but don't have the hunger to play every new thing out there. And after the disband of my guild i had no interest in any other game. Yeah it sounds funny, but i actually had '/played' 360 days of 2years period. I'm pretty sure that overall this 1h limit rule made me completely obsessed with computer games and the only thing that brought me back to the real life was WoW. I think i actually had like 5-6 meals and seeped less then 6h a day during that time. The first time my parents left me alone for 2 weeks i played pretty much all the time. Heh, i had 1h limit and back in the days it took me 1-2 month to complete Half-Life and i played UFO for like 6 month. Raising kids is not about enforcing rules, it's preparing them for the real world where they need to make their own decisions. And show them how their decisions will impact them. So if your kids are doing inappropriate things to play, maybe talk to them as if they are adults, and make a reasonable deal. When I ask them about smoking, they have very negative associations with it. Then I tell them 'look at those smokers, how sick they are. But when we walk to a hospital, there are always patients outside smoking (who obviously look sick). So if you can let them handle their own impulses, that is way better.įor example I will never tell my kids that they cannot smoke, because that will be out of my control anyway. They will have to handle such impulses themselves. So banning something they like, doesn't seem like a good solution to me. The thing with kids is that you will not be there all the time, especially when they get older. His smart reaction was to show that he could play a limited time, and be good afterwards.

So I said 'Wow, if XBox has this influence on you, maybe you should stop completely. When I tried to limit his time, he became agressive. My own son had this period where he was obsessed with playing on the XBox.

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